Every child experiences loneliness from time to time. However, parents can help their children feel better by working with them to develop skills that foster bonding, a sense of belonging, and closeness with others. These are known as social connection skills.
Here are three strategies to assist your child in developing social connection skills:
- Foster daily connections with your child. Dedicate time each day, even if brief, to engage with them. Whether it’s casual conversation or hearing about their day, give them your undivided attention. Maintain eye contact, share a smile, and offer a hug. Reassure them that they can always rely on your support. With consistent interaction, your child will understand that nurturing existing relationships is a powerful way to alleviate feelings of loneliness.
- Support your child in cultivating healthy friendships. Initiate discussions about their friends and what they appreciate about those relationships. Teach them essential friendship qualities such as kindness, fairness, inclusivity, taking turns, active listening, and good sportsmanship. Encourage them to assert themselves and advocate for others. Strong positive relationships within family, friendships, or community contribute significantly to reducing feelings of isolation.
- Instill values of kindness, gratitude, and helpfulness in your child. Demonstrate how to contribute at home, school, and in the community, and encourage them to follow suit. Teach them to express gratitude for small acts of kindness. Set an example by acknowledging and appreciating their efforts when they show kindness. The intrinsic reward for them lies in witnessing the positive impact of their actions and the sense of connection that follows. People who exhibit kindness and assist others typically experience greater social connectivity and decreased loneliness.
What if My Child Needs More Help With Lonely Feelings?
If your child is experiencing persistent or frequent feelings of loneliness that are difficult to manage, it’s important to consider seeking additional support. While many children and teens can navigate occasional lonely feelings with the help of parents or friends, some may require more assistance.
Lonely feelings can diminish when children find avenues to connect, feel accepted, understood, or are reminded of their sense of belonging. However, deeper and more persistent loneliness may necessitate professional intervention. If you’re concerned about your child’s prolonged or recurring loneliness, consider consulting their doctor. They may recommend speaking with a therapist or another mental health professional who can provide guidance and strategies to help your child cope effectively.
